Admitted we were powerless over our addictive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.
Step 1: Surrender
In this step, we recognize how much our compulsions have taken over our lives. We used to think that we could "manage it," but we have finally reached the point where we can come out of our denial and see what others around us already know: our behavior is out of control.
In acknowledging that we have a problem, we can stop the excuses:
- I'm not as bad as . . .
- I can stop whenever I want.
- I only do it sometimes.
- I have it under control.
- I do it because I like it.
- Who else could deal with all of this?
- If I don't do it, no one else will.
- I'm not hurting anyone else.
Step 1 is about surrender and acceptance of reality. It's about taking off the blinders and seeing our behavior for what it really is. It is about eliminating the ways we justify what we are doing and coming to the obvious conclusion that we need to change.
I don't understand myself at all,
for I really want to do what is right, but I don't do it.
Instead, I do the very thing I hate.